Personal Counselling for Adults, Teens, and Young Adults in Toronto and Newmarket
We offer personal counselling and psychotherapy when you need help dealing with present or past relationships. Often feeling of anger, anxiety, panic, sadness or depression can be reduced by helping your reflect on your relationship and yourself. Counselling usually aims to address a particular situation you are facing. Psychotherapy helps you make a personal transformation.
For adults, after after marriage or long term relationship ends, it is often important to address the past and current feelings of sadness, fear, anger, guilt or shame . When you or your partner decide to leave a relationship, there are often many unresolved internal issues. By reflecting on the past relationship, it is possible to learn more about yourself and your own needs. This can be very helpful to sort out – particularly if you want a to be in a new relationship in future. Perhaps your former partner has damaged your self esteem and you want to rebuild your self as well as forge an new chapter in your life.
Teens and young adults come to counselling when they feel stressed by school, their parents or a relationship. When anger, anxiety, or sadness become overwhelming, it can help to talk about it and sort out how to handle relationships and situations.
Psychotherapy for Adults
Psychotherapy is therapeutic interaction aimed at increasing your sense of well-being using a range of ideas and techniques within an experiential therapeutic relationship. It is often very effective for people who have experienced major relationship change, loss or trauma. Sometimes the trauma is that of an extra-marital affair, a childhood trauma of physical, sexual or emotion abuse. The approach we use in psychotherapy is attachment and interpersonal psycho-neurobiology based.
We try to help you move from defensiveness and rigidity to being more open to your own experience; able to engage with strong emotion and be able to create a more coherent and meaningful narrative about yourself and relationships. You can learn to trust your own experience, accept your own feelings and be yourself in relationship to others. We take a holistic approach to address the interconnections between your mind, brain, body and relationships.
Length and Frequency of Sessions
Personal counselling is usually conducted weekly for 55 minutes and can last for a few sessions up to about 20 sessions.
Psychotherapy is a more intensive form of counselling and sessions are 45 minutes long and are conducted twice weekly. This allows expression of issues during the first session of the week and promotes deeper processing and reflection in the second session. Psychotherapy normally takes six months to a year, or more. This amount of therapy is necessary to create a lasting transformation or psychological shift within you. Regular weekly or twice-weekly appointments are necessary at the outset to help you feel some relief of distress and make immediate changes, build a positive therapeutic relationship and experience progress.
“I came for counselling for several periods over the past 6 years. First it was for work-related stress, then family and relationship issues and finally my own personal struggles. I had recently separated from a 10-year marriage and was unhappy with my job. Counselling helped me when I felt overwhelmed by a nasty protracted legal battle with my ex. A few years later, with my new partner, Allan helped me to sort out how issues with my new partner, money issues with his ex and his daughter and my daughters.
However, the key time was last year when I came to see Allan because I had to take a stand with people I loved. Ultimately, the problem at the core of my life was my own family – my brothers, mother and father. I had not realized that I had not truly dealt with my family, who in the past, had caused me so much pain. As a loyal daughter and sister, I had tried for so many years to keep the relationships going. But in doing so, I had allowed them to take advantage of me and my generosity. At times I tried to cut them off completely but that did not seem right. I had to learn how to put boundaries up and stop their manipulation of me. Allan gave me the strength to establish boundaries. Once I discovered the courage to put limits on things, I felt a huge weight lifted from me. Now I am much better and able to cope. I found a way to take control of my life without losing valuable connections with my family. Now within a few days, rather than weeks and months of agonizing, I can work through life changes. Once I learned to take control out of the hands of others, I learned to take charge of my life.
I have met quite a number of therapists over the years, and I would say Allan has been better than most of them by far. I have told a number of people that he is the best. He just knows how to give the right amount of feedback. Some therapists listen and listen and listen and don’t give enough. Allan is a really effective listener and has an effective way of ‘clearing the fog’ for me. When I was going around in circles, he would replay the essence of what I was saying so I was clear about my own thoughts and feelings. Then I could figure out for myself what to do.
As a woman, I always went to see a female therapist figuring they would understand me and be better at helping me. Allan has this remarkable way of connecting with the female perspective and at the same time helping one to understand how men might see things. My partner had seen therapists in the past and told me he thought they were all ‘Bozos’. When he saw Allan, he felt totally differently. He saw his approach to be much more like a coach.”*
Still have some questions? Call 416 489-5053
- When you book your phone consultation you will receive an email reply to your questions and a link to my online calendar. You can then book a Free Telephone Consultation appointment into my online schedule. If you prefer, you can phone and request a Free Telephone Consultation with the answering service or leave a message in my voice mail. I want to know a little bit about your situation so I know whether I am the right therapist for you. Many people may want to know who attends, how much it costs and what to expect. We book the first in person session at the end of this telephone consultation.
- First Two Sessions.
The personal counselling or psychotherapy session is 60 minutes. This will give us a chance to learn about your concerns, get some background information and learn about what you would like to accomplish. We usually gather a history about relationship you have had in your life: your relationship with your parents in your first 12 years of life and then all other significant relationships you have had including the most currents one. This helps us notice and repeating patterns and learn how you deal with separations, loss, and challenges. We will gently note of any traumas in childhood or at anytime in your life.
- Subsequent Sessions. All subsequent sessions are 55 minutes long when you come once weekly. Some people who would like most comprehensive psychotherapy come twice weekly for 45 minutes sessions.
If you think you could benefit from counselling, please book your Free Initial Phone Consultation so we can learn how we can help and make an your first appointment. If you have questions please call 416 489-5053
New Insights Counselling has couples therapists/marriage counsellors, family therapists personal counselling and psychotherapy with counselling services in midtown Toronto at Yonge and Eglinton serving North York, Etobicoke, East York, Scarborough and in Newmarket serving Aurora, Bradford, Holland Landing, King City, Schomberg, Stoufville Richmond Hill, Markham and Uxbridge Ontario.